Note: This post is written in response to a blogger group writing exercise on "Things one should learn in life other than academics. What's your take on it?"
Kids learn. That's the only primary objective of childhood/young-adulthood.
What do I want my kids to learn - Values & Emotional Intelligence!
Me and my spouse have passed Values to our kids and are proud of our kids' ethics level. We only pray that it stays with them untainted.
What I covet for my kids to learn now is emotional intelligence/Quotient.
EQ's definition from web is
"Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict."
A person with high EQ is at peace within himself/herself. That is what I want my children to have when they grow up. EQ would enable them to deal well with the world outside and be content with it.
There has been some side effect of passing on good values. My kids don't hit back when other kids (playmates/cousins) hit them. Besides them needing to learn some karate blocking techniques they need to learn EQ to come out from this episode without a scarring.
My 6 year old could very easily empathize with others. When we were telling her a story about how Lord Vishnu saved an Elephant from the grips of a crocodile, her instant answer was "Now what will the crocodile do for its food" :)
My 6 year old is the peace maker of her gang. But how am I going to make her stand up for herself more often and with more strength. Its a herculean task for me now. She needs to learn to communicate effectively and relieve stress.
Thanks to this topic, I have more questions now than answers. But I realise I need to delve more on this and learn to create avenues for my kids to have a better EQ.
Kids learn. That's the only primary objective of childhood/young-adulthood.
What do I want my kids to learn - Values & Emotional Intelligence!
Me and my spouse have passed Values to our kids and are proud of our kids' ethics level. We only pray that it stays with them untainted.
What I covet for my kids to learn now is emotional intelligence/Quotient.
EQ's definition from web is
"Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict."
A person with high EQ is at peace within himself/herself. That is what I want my children to have when they grow up. EQ would enable them to deal well with the world outside and be content with it.
There has been some side effect of passing on good values. My kids don't hit back when other kids (playmates/cousins) hit them. Besides them needing to learn some karate blocking techniques they need to learn EQ to come out from this episode without a scarring.
My 6 year old could very easily empathize with others. When we were telling her a story about how Lord Vishnu saved an Elephant from the grips of a crocodile, her instant answer was "Now what will the crocodile do for its food" :)
My 6 year old is the peace maker of her gang. But how am I going to make her stand up for herself more often and with more strength. Its a herculean task for me now. She needs to learn to communicate effectively and relieve stress.
Thanks to this topic, I have more questions now than answers. But I realise I need to delve more on this and learn to create avenues for my kids to have a better EQ.
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